Safire’s Magick: Relationship Strengthening Ritual

DISCLAIMER: This would technically fall under the category of a love spell. This should not be done, unless both parties are completely in agreement, and consenting to what the ritual is and what the outcome could be. This should not be done for anyone else. This is a very personal rite and should be completed by BOTH people in the relationship. And this should never be done by ANYONE under the age of 18.

What you need:

• A glass jar with a lid (can be any container, but in my opinion, glass would work best.)
• 3 crystals
  • One for you, one for your partner, and one for the relationship
• 3 ribbons/Strings/cords/yarn/etc.
  • Like the crystals, one for each person, one for the relationship.
• Candles (colors aren’t necessary, but I like them to represent the elements.)
  • Yellow for Air
  • Red for Fire
  • Blue for Water
  • Green for Earth
  • Purple for Spirit
  • White for the spell work 
• A chalice/cup for offering
• A plate for offering
• A small bowl of water
• A small bowl of salt (for this ritual specifically, I would try and use pink salt.)
• Herbs (these can be mixed in a bowl beforehand or individually added during the ritual, it’s up to you.)
  • Rose petals
  • Basil
  • Lavender
  • Bay Leaf
  • Cinnamon sticks
  • Sage
  • Sugar
  • If you have access, hemp can also be added to this, like I know that it will probably be added to mine, because Marissa will make me lol. 
  • Any other “love” herb will work just as well. These are just the ones that jumped out at me specifically when I was researching for this ritual. 
• Anything else that you feel should be on the alter. Ours normally will have an athame, a wand, various crystals including one of our crystal balls. It’s really up to you and what you are feeling when you set the altar up. 

How to Prepare for the Ritual

Now that you will have everything ready, you will want to get the altar set up, both of you should have a part in setting up the altar. The jar should be the center of the altar, you should also sprinkle some of the salt and lavender around the perimeter of the altar. While you do this, you should discuss the outcome you both want to see from the ritual, and you both should make sure again that the other person is comfortable with what you are about to do. Yes, spells can be reversed, but the damage they may cause can’t be undone so easily. 

After talking, both you and your partner should take the items you each picked and meditate with them. First, you should ground yourself and the items, you’ll want to center yourself and make sure the items are ready to be charged. You will want to charge the items with the love you feel for the other person. These items will become the embodiment of you in the ritual, so this step is important. You will want to make sure you have enough time and space to really concentrate on what you are about to do, and the outcome you want from the ritual. You can also write your feelings for the other person down on a piece of paper, if this is going to be done, I would suggest making sure both people do it. 

Once you both feel that you have meditated on your intent and charged your items for long enough, you are ready to start the ritual. And I’m going to say it again, if at ANY point you start to second guess the ritual, STOP! 

Starting the ritual

Normally, I would say that for a ritual you should be in your elemental position, in this case, you should be facing each other across the altar. Take the other persons hands in yours and you both should say something like this to cast the circle:

“Round this circle is cast, joining energies future and past, a sacred space of love and light, joining here with all your might. Craft our circle, three times three, as we will it, so mote it be.”

Now that your space is set up, the next step is to call the corners, or elements. Some people start in the North, or Earth, but I personally prefer to start with the East, or Air. Light each corresponding candle as you call each element. 

“We call to the East and the element Air. Join this circle, gift us with your breath and wisdom. Blow through this space and surround us with your gentle breeze.

We call to the South and the element Fire. Join this circle, gift us with your passion and warmth. Spread through this space and surround us with your loving spark. 

We call to the West and the element Water. Join this circle, gift us with your cleansing and purity. Flow through this space and surround us with your fluidity. 

We call to the North and the element Earth. Join this circle, gift us with your calm and strength. Ground this space and surround us in your earthly embrace. 

We call to all and nothing and the element of Spirit. Join this circle, gift us with your serenity and love. Spread through this space and surround us with your calming presence.” 

Now that the quarters are called, you’ll want to take a moment and take in the energies that are around you. When you are ready to move forward, you will want to start the magic portion of your ritual. Light the white candle and pass the jar over the flame (not in the flame, it could shatter) and ask that each element bless and empower each portion of your spell work. 

Set the jar back in the middle of the alter and you each should start adding the herbs to the bottom of the jar. If you already have the herbs mixed together, you should both pour half into the jar, if they are separate, you should both add a portion of each herb to the jar. 

Once all the herbs have been added to the jar, you’ll each want to pick up your individual crystals and letting the energy of the ritual flow through you into them with your intent. Then place them into the jar. This would also be the time to read the notes you wrote and then in the jar if you did them. At this point, you could also add a drop of blood from each of you if you want the added power of it, this is not necessary, nor should it be taken lightly if you decide to do it. 

Now take the crystal/stone that represents your relationship and one of you holds it in your palm while the other person places their hand over yours. You should pour into this stone all the love you feel for your partner, let the energy, amplified by the ritual, flow through you into this stone. Once you feel it is done, place it in the jar. Once everything is in the jar, pour a drop of the wax from each candle into the jar. 

Place the top on the jar and say:

“Our love will grow our bond will thrive, strengthened by these elements five.”

Take the three cords and braid them together and tie them around the jar with the knot at the top of the jar. Take each candle and ask the elements to bless your magic, pouring a little of the wax on the knot with each candle. 

Once the spell is done, take each other’s hands and focus your love and intent on the jar and your spell. 

When you feel the time is right, move on to the offering, going around the circle, take a sip and bite for each element/corner called, telling them you are eating/drinking for them. 

By this point, the ritual is mostly over, you can spend as long as you want basking in the energies (or other things that go together with strengthening relationships. Lol) 

To close the circle, going in reverse order, blow out the element/corner candles while saying:

“Thank you, Spirit, for joining this circle and lending us your energy, you are free to leave. 

Thank you, Earth, for joining this circle and lending us your strength, you are free to leave.

Thank you, Water, for joining this circle and lending us your purity, you are free to leave. 

Thank you, Fire, for joining this circle and lending us your passion, you are free to leave. 

Thank you, Air, for joining this circle and leaning us your wisdom, you are free to leave.”

Now that you have released the elements, you will want to close the circle. You can do that by walking the perimeter counterclockwise picturing the energy around you dissipating saying:

“This circle is open but unbroken. Circle round, now be unbound.”

After the ritual, you will want to spend some time eating and talking about what you felt in the ritual. Basically, you will want to spend time with each other and help the bond grow more. While this ritual will help strengthen your relationship, unfortunately it is not a miracle cure for a relationship that’s not working out. And again, for like the hundredth time, you cannot do this with someone that does not consent to having it done! 

Well, that’s the ritual. Let me know what you think. And definitely let me know if you and your significant other try it!